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Marriage Equality

There’s been a lot of discussion in the media and on social networks lately (as if you haven’t already been in a social argument to know this) about the Supreme Court’s discussion on “Marriage Equality” which as of writing this is still in the works.  For those of you who aren’t even familiar why this issue has come up, let me fill you in real quick.

Proposition 8 was a ballot measure in the state of California during the November 2008 elections.  While voting for the President and other offices, Californians were asked if only a marriage between a man and a woman should be recognized by the state of California, to which surprisingly, 52% of the state voted Yes.  Obviously, when someone gets an answer they don’t want, they appeal and try to have the courts overturn it which is what the Supreme Court is deliberating now.

First off, I would like to point out that I am thrilled with the way that California decided to handle this issue.  This is a democracy after all, therefore put it on a ballot and let the people decide.  When done this way, we found surprisingly that a state as seemingly liberal as California was actually not quite ready for this measure.  Any sort of issue like this should always be voted on, but that takes me to my next thought.  If the majority of people voted against it, then why are we taking this to the Supreme Court to try and have overturned?  Doesn’t this defeat the whole purpose behind the democracy?  In the case of the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (ObamaCare), the American people didn’t really have an opportunity like California did to vote on the issue, so in that case it is the Supreme Court’s duty to ensure that what one legislative branch does is in the best interest of the country.  I personally think they made the incorrect decision in that case, but that’s for another day.  So what are we coming to in this country when an issue comes up, we have a vote, the minority group disproves of the outcome, throws a fit, and causes a ruckus until people finally just give in.  This sounds like the case of that annoying 2 year old crying in the supermarket, who you’ll give anything to just so they’ll shut up.  Now this may all sound harsh towards the homosexual community and supports of, but honestly I’m not looking at that aspect of the system from the issue itself, but rather the way that we conduct business here in these United States of America and how that business is trying to be changed.  I believe that with any issue like this, each state should be able to let its people vote on how they want to go about things, and once the vote is tallied, there you have your result.  I think no matter what the outcome is, if an outcome is reached, the vote should not be allowed to come back up for another four years minimum because all this pushing pushing pushing until we get what we want is really annoying.

Secondly, I want to do some clarifying for the Christian community and the many responses I’ve seen in social media.  I have been deeply saddened first off by the hatred and disgusting things that have negatively been said about the group of people who want Marriage Equality.  Many of these negative things I don’t believe fall under “Love thy neighbor” and therefore should not be said, or even thought.  As if that wasn’t saddening enough, I was extremely troubled by the group of “Christians” who are out there claiming, “I am a Christian and I (strongly) support Marriage Equality because it’s not my place to judge others and God gave us free will to choose what we want to do with our lives”.  Let’s make something extremely clear.  Just because you don’t support an action or are even against it, doesn’t mean you are judging those with opposing views.  I am 100% against homosexuality, but I do not look down on those who are or who support it, but am rather saddened because I firmly believe that it’s not the way we were created and intended to carry out our lives.  Here’s the place where this whole democracy thing comes into play.  I am against it, you may be for it.  If you want to make it a legal, recognizable deal by the state, then take it to the ballot and we’ll hold a vote.  Whichever opinion gets the most response, that’s the way we’ll recognize marriage for at least four years until you have the opportunity to bring it up for vote again.  If it’s approved, I’ll sit back in sadness and try to teach my kids (that I don’t yet have) what I know to be the right way and to love others even if we don’t agree with all of their decisions.

Also, if you claim to be a Christian and you support a measure that is wrong in God’s eyes, even if you don’t participate in these actions yourself, I encourage you to think again and to go back and read His Word.  There is no gray area with God on this particular issue.  It is stated clearly in more than one area that it is wrong.  In every situation like this, I encourage you to think about the day where you must stand before Him and account for all the things you’ve done in your life.  When He asks you why you supported something that is obviously against Him, make sure you have a response you feel is firm.  And on this whole issue of, “God gave us free will so we could choose to live how we wanted and choose not to believe in Him”, you’re somewhat correct.  Without getting into another long discussion, the free will He has granted us was not so that we could live in sin and do as we pleased here knowing that His son died for us so it’s all good.  If you believe that you’re totally missing the point of Jesus.  The free will He granted us was so that we could choose to love Him rather than be these robots walking around doing as we’re told with no mind of our own.  What greater love is there than a love by choice?  Do you want your spouse to love you because you force his/her hand, or because he/she thinks highly of you and wants to be in a relationship with you?  It’s the same concept.  He wants us to see what all He has done and will do for us if we’ll just love and trust Him.  We’ll never be perfect creatures, but that doesn’t mean we don’t strive to be as much as Jesus as possible.  So if as a Christian, you want to support an issue that is against God for “free will” sake, again I strongly think you should think long and hard on this and pray that God will grant you the wisdom in all your decision making.  These are decisions you must face later on, so make sure you have a solid foundation in them.

I am against Marriage Equality, not because I don’t see a homosexual person as an equal individual, but because I do not believe that it is morally right.  I know some people will disagree with me and think that I shouldn’t allow my beliefs to infringe on other’s rights, but that’s where I simply invite you to hold a vote and if the majority of the people agree with you, you can have it your way.  I don’t think I have to go hold picket signs at the courthouse demeaning the gay community to try and force others to agree with me neither.  I will encourage others to get to know their Creator and the One who holds their destiny in His hands, and from there get to know His Word and His commands so that they will live a life suiting to Him and His will for us.

This is a discussion that could go on and on but I just wanted to throw some initial thoughts out from some of the things I’ve seen and heard over the last day or two.  If you disagree or would like to add on or correct something I said, please leave your feedback in the comments.  Just remember, keep it cool.





Bravo, Zachary! I have been screaming the same thing at my TV for days. Why vote on an issue if the results won’t stand? And I am too often baffled by the response of “Christians” to the homosexual issue. Accepting the sin is wrong, but so is hating the sinner. God most certainly does not “hate fags.” He loves them as much as he loves me, which is far more than I deserve. Homosexuality is a sin. (Anybody who disagrees can take it up with God.) But it’s not a bigger sin that stealing a candy bar or cheating on your taxes. Equality comes with fairness. Disagreeing with homosexuality is not unfair. Mistreating homosexuals is. And accepting what God has condemned is dangerous ground for any Christian to be treading. If gay marriage was made legal by a fair majority vote, I would accept it. “Render unto Caesar” and all that. Until then, I believe we have a responsibility to stand up for the laws God and our forefathers established. If you don’t like the system, beat it. Don’t buck it.


Yeah that’s about as solid a reply as I could have imagined lol. Whole heartedly agree! Thanks for the input!

Sara Pineda

Couldn’t have said this better myself. Too often people morph the word of god into what fits their needs… perfect case in point with the whole “christians for marriage equality” bit.


Exactly. Who needs God whenever we can just establish our own ideas and beliefs? We then become our own god which totally defeats the purpose and leads to eternal death.

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